Two sites to consider…
I came across this in a google alert (requires a gmail.com account) on the term lutheran. This post is one woman's thoughts on keeping children in church v.s. in a nursery. It's always been my strong belief that children belong in the service; I know it was great when my 3-year old daughter was saying the Lord's Prayer along with us, and have enjoyed seeing other kids in service following along with the liturgy. This is of course another reason to not make changes to the liturgy, as our young (and old) can follow along from memory.
One point that makes a lot of sense to me (number 7 below) is, in those cases where you have to take the kids out, don't give the kid what he wants — getting out of the service. Stay at the back or where you can still hear the service, and follow along until the end of the service.
I hate church nurseries. At every church I've attended that has *had* a church nursery, I've been offered, encouraged and harassed to use the nursery. I know people have good intentions, but I grew so tired of hearing people to tell me to "let myself have a break," or "let the children come and play," or whatever other way they so nicely suggest that my children didn't belong/didn't need to be/weren't wanted in church. This is why I am so glad that they church we go to now has no nursery in sight. Places where you can take your child during the service? Yes. Staffed nursery? No. So grateful.
I truly believe (and always have) that children belong in church from the time of their baptism on. I also believe that children should be baptised within weeks, if not days, of their births, ergo, children belong in church from the time they are days (or weeks) old, hearing the Word. And don't tell me it's too hard, because I don't buy it. When I had one, or even two children, mothers with more "experience" would knowingly say that I'd change my mind when they were older/more mobile, or if I had more children. Well, I'm here to tell you, I didn't change my mind, not when I had four children four and under, not when I found out that one of my children has autism (which can make sitting through church a challenge), not when my husband is out-of-town and I have to take them all by myself, not ever. Children are part of the body of believers, they need to be taught how to worship, and they need to be in worship.
So, to everybody who talked down to me like I had no idea what parenting was like when I was a younger parent: you were wrong. I stand by my belief that children *always* belong in church. To the other parents out there who are struggling to do the right thing and keep their children in church with them, here are a few ideas for you:
Helping children to learn how to worship is not always easy–at times is may seem like a never-ending task. But, one Sunday you will realize that your toddler is singing the words to the liturgy, and you will realize that your elementary-school age children are listening to the sermon, and you may even notice that your special-needs child is at his best in church, and you will know what an important and rewarding task it truly is!
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